Friday, November 13, 2009

Playing by the "rules"

I was thinking about how much Chip and I need to get away as a couple this past week for several different reasons, but recognize how it isn't the easiest thing to make happen. So I looked back in my blog archives and found it was January of 2006 when we last spent time away from our kids/home/responsibilities for more than 24 hours. That's coming up on 4 years since we've taken time for our marriage beyond the routine ways of doing marriage. Our getaway that January- was a roadtrip to Iowa where we went to a friend's 40th birthday party. We were gone for about 48 hours. =)
Prior to that it had been about 9 years since we had taken a break anywhere- just the two of us. So what I can tell from our track record is that we are rule breakers when it comes to managing our marriage. In fact, it seems likely that out next together time could still be about 5 years away if we actually follow our track record. But I sure hope we don't stick to it that closely!
It's a wonder to me, and a testament of just how much we rely on God to sustain us, when I see that we're still together and that somedays we actually look like a happy couple. =) I'm not entirely kidding when I write that. I AM amazed that we have stuck it out and been through so much and still- even without trips and time together- we somehow keep it altogether. Some days better than others, but when it's all said and done we're still a couple. I'm humbled that Chip feels like our marriage is worth fighting for and that he chooses to come back home to me each day. I have to admit I'd take more time for us if we could make that happen, but I also understand the reality of just how hard that is.
Wyndham has medical needs that require a daily shot and she honestly has been one of the biggest reasons we don't ever go away together. Also, our families live in other states and to have dependable childcare for special needs kids and the number of kids we have is tricky all on its own. So it is what it is. I just was realizing all over again how we sort of defy the odds as a family and as a couple more than we're really aware of- especially in the society in which we live. I'm not planning on calling it quits anytime soon- or ever. I hope Chip isn't either. I also hope we get the chance to play by the marriage "rules" a bit better too. Hopefully sooner, rather than later. But, I can also say that even if we never go anywhere together {alone} again, I'll still be beyond grateful for what we share. It's a gift that I take for granted far too often.
I can't end this post without typing and publicly saying, "I love you, Chip" either. Even if he doesn't read this post for a few days or if it means I have to Facebook him and post on his wall to do so. Sometimes finding ways to love one another involves unconventional methods. If you didn't know that about me by now, you should know this- I happen to love unconventional. Especially in a marriage.
Love you, Chip! Every single day. xoxo


Lauren Kelly said...

Amazingly heart felt and beautiful!!!!! :)

Erika said...

so sweet! i hear ya about having family living out of state- it makes it hard to get guys are such a testament to a strong marriage. very inspiring!

Patricia said...

My husband and I have been married 19 years and we've gone away without the kids 3 times. No family nearby either since my Mom passed away 7 years ago. We likely won't have a get-away again until our youngest is off to college ~ in 5.5 years. (Not that I'm counting or anything!) It does take effort to keep things moving along in our marriage and not let the hum-drum of everyday life bog us down ~ but we believe it's worth it. Congrats on your testament to a committed marriage. Wishing you many more years of marital bliss!! Blessings, Patricia

jennifer said...

what a beautiful post and a beautiful picture of a beautiful couple. :-)